The Importance of Not Giving a Fuck

Many things are worth caring about. There is one thing in particular, however, that requires us to actively participate in not paying it any mind; what others think of us. When someone criticizes our interests, lifestyle, or things that bring us happiness, it becomes necessary for us to raise our middle fingers high and choose to genuinely not give a fuck.

The most self destructive thing we can do is compare ourselves to others. Everyone has different life circumstances. Problems arise when people choose to use their particular individual life circumstances to form a view on how others should be living their lives. The issue, of course, is that others are living under different circumstances, and therefore the life circumstances of one can not be applied to another.

For example, a lawyer who is married with the standard 2.5 kids (ok, we’ll just say 3) expects everyone else to live a similar lifestyle because this is what is right for him. What is right for him, however, will not be right for someone else. Perhaps another person is an unmarried artist who chooses to forgo marriage and children, as well as choosing to live a generally ‘unconventional’ lifestyle. This is what’s right for him. Neither of these lifestyles are superior or inferior to the other, they are simply different. Moreover, they are the correct path for those who follow them.

Ideally, everyone would realize this reality. Unfortunately, the world is filled with cynics and pessimists who view anyone adhering to a lifestyle different from their own as inferior. For this reason, it is important that we know how to properly react to their opinions of us. This proper reaction can best be described as not giving a fuck. When we say ‘not giving a fuck’, we mean truly, in the most genuine way, not giving a fuck.

It is important to realize that when someone has a negative opinion on your lifestyle or the things that bring you happiness, it is a reflection on them, not a reflection on you. They are often very insecure, and to put it quite frankly, miserable individuals. Their cynical opinions have no bearing on you. The best thing you could learn to do is completely disregard them as they truly hold no merit whatsoever.

It takes a very strong will to truly live by this philosophy. The best way to develop the strong will necessary is to begin an active practice. The next time someone says something unnecessary and cynical to you, choose to not give a fuck. Tell yourself ‘I truly do not give a fuck about this bastard or their opinion of me. I am secure in myself and do not need the validation of a miserable cynic.’ Do this until you genuinely believe what you are telling yourself. Before you know it, it will become second nature.

If you are an unmarried 45 year old man who enjoys spending his free time reading comic books, do it. If you are a 15 year old who enjoys spending your free time with your nose in a book, do it. If you are a 70 year old man who enjoys skateboarding, toilet humor, and playing Pokémon Go, do it. These are things that make you happy; you need no other reason to do them. When a cynical pessimist tells you that you’re a ‘loser’, that you ‘have no life’, or that you are living your life incorrectly, stick your middle finger in their face, tell them to fuck off, and go back to whatever it is you were doing. Think no more about it for their opinion truly does not matter. Do not give a fuck about them or their message of ignorance and cynicism. Keep doing what makes you happy and pay no mind to those who only wish to belittle you and make you as miserable as they are.

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Magickal Work for Family Harmony

In this post we will explore a couple of ways you can help manifest family harmony. Perhaps a family reunion or holiday is coming up and you don’t get along with one or more family members. Or perhaps there has been a series of fights in your household recently. Whatever the case may be, the following magickal workings may prove helpful.

Meditation

Get into a meditative state and visualize the place that your family will be interacting. Perhaps this is your home, the home of a relative, or somewhere else entirely. You can visualize the exterior, interior, or both; moving from the exterior to the interior. Now, visualize a blue mist/rain/fog/etc. (whichever you prefer) come over the area, washing away any negativity and replacing it with a calming, harmonious energy. Blue is a color of peace and harmony. By doing this meditation, you are sending these energies to the location.

Spell

Materials Needed:

Regular Altar Tools

Light Blue Candle

Cauldron

Water

Stones (preferably moonstone, but generally any stones will do) (1 for each family member including yourself)

Spell Work

Ideally, this spell is done under the waxing or full moon. Cast the circle and fill your cauldron with water. Place your stones in the cauldron. Each one represents a family member, including yourself. The water cleanses them of any harmful energy that may prohibit them from interacting together harmoniously and lead to hostility. Place the light blue candle in the cauldron (it should not be completely submerged) and light it. Visualize yourself and your family members together; laughing, smiling, and generally getting along. Hold this visualization until the candle burns down and the water extinguishes the flame. At this point, the harmonious energy of the candle and the cleansing energy of the water are infused in the stones. Remove the stones from the cauldron as they are now cleansed and charged with harmonious energy. Release the circle and return the water used in the cauldron to the earth. Keep the stones together in a safe place.

The above meditation and spell have worked wonders for me, and I hope that I can help others by sharing them.

New Book Available

I started writing my novel, ‘The Deranged, Neurotic Tales of Jamie Hemingway’ in April and finished in July. It was such an amazing experience to give life to this story. I know that part of my life’s purpose is to write as much as I can and share my stories with the world. ‘The Deranged, Neurotic Tales of Jamie Hemingway is now available on Lulu.com and will soon be available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, etc. cover

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